“As a trans man, I felt some pressure to choose a more traditional masculine look for my wedding,” Cherry said. “Once I started shopping, I felt more feminine clothing appealed to me and I wanted to follow that feeling. In my opinion, the clothing I was wearing was masculine, historically referencing monasticism, while at the same time Challenges the current understanding of what it means to be masculine. We see men in dresses more in the media now, and more often than not, they’re straight. That’s beautiful in its own way. As a trans man, I find myself What’s special about choosing to wear a dress. I’m not falling into gender expectations about gender assignments at birth – instead I’m taking all my gender experiences to the top and creating a place that makes me feel comfortable, handsome, beautiful and sexy vision.” The couple wanted their wedding party to be free to express themselves as well. “We didn’t give any parameters other than ‘looks great,’ and they didn’t disappoint at all,” Cherry said. “There’s a pearl tiara, a slip dress, vintage Gaultier, Bottega puddle boots, mesh, hairspray in the back—it’s just amazing.”
Ceremony at a friend’s house in Tybee, Georgia Island and the couple took a boat (captained by another family friend) to the cliff, where guests waved and ran by the water. “My dad was unable to attend the wedding due to compromised health and was diagnosed with ALS six years ago,” Silver said of walking down the aisle with their mom, a moment that inspired many The first of tears. “She’s my best friend and it makes sense in the world to be able to do this with her support.” Cherry listens to the harpist playing “La Vie En Rose” voice. “When Cherry got close to me, the ends of his hair fluttered and it felt like an extension of his spirit,” Silver said.
Ronica McClain, who introduced them, presided over the ceremony, and the couple recited their own vows written on scratch paper. “We also have dear friend Spike Thompson to bless our ring and our alliance with her own words and the words of James Baldwin,” Cherry said. “Standing on the cliffs of the river I grew up swimming made me feel at home.” When they kissed for the first time as a married couple, Earth, Wind & Fire’s “In The Stone” played, and naturally some little dance. “At the ceremony, I pushed all my fears to one side—it was a moment when I could really be there and talk with confidence about my love for Cherry,” Silver said. “We practiced ‘immersion’ at the beach a few months ago and haven’t since, but somehow got through it that day with little effort.”
In the reception At the event, friends Sadie Mayburns and Anthony Ha prepared dinner for everyone, with lowland-style raw bars, prime ribs, salad wedges and summer vegetables. “My Tito Marc asked us to pray before we enjoyed our delicious meal,” Silver said. “My Tita Tess makes traditional Filipino desserts like puto, rice cakes in different flavors, and my favorite tapioca cake.” Cherry filled guests’ glasses with a bottle of Les Foulards Rouge “L’Octobre” and was served by His father, Silver’s mother and their best friend toast. The couple danced to Carol Douglass’ “Doctor’s Orders” before Alexander Bebe Lopez’s music brought everyone to the dance floor. “I think dancing was my favorite part of the night,” Cherry said. “My dad Kevin has arranged for a hot dog truck to arrive around 10 afternoon, that’s the icing on the cake!”
The next day, friends at Tybee Camp by the river behind the island beach. “Everyone is asking me if I feel differently,” Cherry said. “I did it, and I still do it.” Silver snapped the action: “Everything after the wedding felt like an upgrade in life.”