The way I set up their room helped me a lot. They can’t catch anything dangerous, and nothing will fall on them. It’s a Montessori style, so they can move around freely. All outlets are covered and they can only use age-appropriate children’s products. There is also a children’s door so I know they can’t escape. Knowing they have this space makes me feel at ease because during a migraine attack, I do have to leave.
In the future, I fully plan to disclose our many health histories to my children, especially since I feel a little alienated when my parents didn’t do it for me. I struggled with migraines for a long time just because I didn’t know my family’s medical history. I don’t know if my parents were ashamed of it or if they just grew up not talking about their health. But I think it’s really important to pass this knowledge on to my kids so that if they develop any symptoms, they can fix it even earlier than I do. — Nico Shanel, 27, Phoenix, Arizona
3. “You need to ask for help, You need to rely on people who can support you. “
“It’s important to me not to deny what happened. continue. If I keep denying my migraines it will only make it worse. I can’t say I’m fine, just hope my migraines will go away. I can’t pretend they don’t exist. I have to admit where I am in order to be able to ask for help when I need it. This is how I can take control of my life and not be a victim of circumstances and see what I can do to manage my symptoms.
If I’m a little quiet, my daughter will ask me if my head hurts and if I need anything. She would offer to get my peppermint oil out of my purse. I dab it under my nose and it does help with nausea. I also use magnesium oil and herbal teas, I meditate and exercise, and these things seem to help with migraines.
I recently celebrated my fourth year of continuous daily intermittent fasting. Intermittent fasting has completely changed my life and I tell anyone who will listen. It really anchors me and helps me see life from a different perspective. Food affects our body, mind and spirit. It actually helps me reduce distractions so I’m able to go through my day and see what needs to be done and what doesn’t.
Also, sleep is important. No matter how early I need to go to bed, I make sure to get seven and a half hours of rest. When I prioritize my health and well-being, things fall into place and migraine attacks are more manageable. All the things I’ve taught myself about self-care and prioritizing my health, I’m also teaching my daughters. Even with migraines, you have agency. Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens to you, and in turn, it happens to others. —Kathleen Richardson, 38, Buffalo, NY
4. “You have to give yourself grace. Not every second of every day has to be perfect. “
” When I’m not feeling well, I can’t do it all I can’t even count How many times have I had to forgive myself for this. Maybe you planned to make a really delicious dinner, but you got a migraine and ended up throwing something quick from the fridge. The most important thing is that your kids are full and they don’t really care. They just want you to feel better.
Prevention is also key, especially if you have kids. Of course, I have my preventative medication. I found a doctor who was not only a neurologist but a headache specialist, so she was really able to guide me in the right direction. I’ve also found that going to a chiropractor relaxes me, which has become part of my preventative routine.
When I was growing up, I felt like I didn’t know anyone else who had migraines. But now there are more and more resources, and it’s getting better every year. ” — Rachel Bennetts-Wu, 43, San Diego, CA